Default to arm64 builders for macos wheels and cross compile x86_64 by default #458

Job	Run time
release / Load build targets	4s
release_default / Load build targets	8s
release_sdist_only / Load build targets	0s
release_sdist_only / Build ${{ matrix.target }} wheels	0s
release_sdist_only / Build source distribution	0s
release_sdist_only / Upload	0s
release / Build source distribution	18s
release / Build linux wheels	49s
release / Build cp311-macosx_x86_64 wheels	1s
release / Build cp311-macosx_x86_64 wheels	38s
release / Build cp312-macosx_arm64 wheels	19s
release / Build cp313-macosx_universal2 wheels	40s
release / Build cp3?-win_amd64 wheels	34s
release / Build cp312-manylinux_aarch64 wheels	48s
release / Build cp313-manylinux_x86_64 wheels	45s
release / Build cp311-manylinux_ppc64le wheels	49s
release_default / Build linux wheels	44s
release_default / Build macos wheels	1s
release_default / Build windows wheels	25s
release_default / Build source distribution	20s
release_default / Upload	1s
release / Upload	1s
	7m 25s

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